Friday, July 24, 2009

Committments

I found a fabulous quote for you today:

"Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back,always ineffectiveness concerning all acts of initiative and creation.There is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans; that the moment one definitely commits oneself,then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen events, meetings and material assistance which no one could have dreamed would have come their way. I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe's couplets: "Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now!"" ~ W.H. Murray

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Some Thoughts about Love

If you think that love is what you want, you will go searching for it all over the place. If you think love is what you are, you will go sharing it all over the place. The second approach will cause you to find what the searching will never reveal.

Yet you cannot give love in order to get it. Doing that is as much as saying you do not now have it. And that statement will, of course, be your reality. No, you must give love because you have it to give. In this will you experience your own possession of it.

Thanks to Neale Donald Walsch

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Truly profound. ……....something to think about...Washington DC Metro Station on a cold January morning in 2007. He played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes.
During that time approx 2 thousand people went through the station, most of them on their way to work.
After 3 minutes a middle aged man noticed there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried to meet his schedule.
4 minutes later:the violinist received his first dollar: a woman threw the money in the till and, without stopping, continued to walk.
6 minutes:A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.10 minutes:A 3 year old boy stopped but his mother tugged him along hurriedly, as the kid stopped to look at the violinist.. Finally the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. Every parent, without exception, forced them to move on.
45 minutes:The musician played. Only 6 people stopped and stayed for a while. About 20 gave him money but continued to walk their normal pace.He collected $32.
1 hour:He finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition.No one knew this but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the best musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a violin worth $3.5 million dollars. Two days before Joshua Bell sold out a theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100.This is a real story.
Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and people's priorities. The questions raised: in a common place environment at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty? Do we stop to appreciate it? Do we recognize talent in an unexpected context?One possible conclusion reached from this experiment could be:If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful instruments ...How many other things are we missing?

Our Beliefs Create Our Reality

Beliefs create our reality. If you don’t believe that to be true, your beliefs will create evidence for you to validate that you are right - making the first statement true that beliefs create our reality.
Beliefs filter our perception of reality within the infinite possibilities of pure awareness, leaving us with the evidence for whatever we decide to believe – as long as we believe it absolutely and have no conflicting beliefs (doubts).
People often have many different beliefs about a subject and this is why they experience a little of this and a little of that. Having beliefs that are in conflict is the source of stress and struggle and mis-alignment with one’s self. Many people think that they can shift deeply held beliefs by “thought replacement” or “positive thinking”. In the long run this is an act of futility, a strategy that is guaranteed to fail in the end because thoughts are generated by identities which are deeply held beliefs that exist as contracted, energetic structures in the body/mind. Consciousness, in this regard, is much like the structure of an iceberg where only a small portion is revealed on the surface.
When beliefs have enough importance in them, enough judgment, a person begins to identify with them as their sense of self – their sense of identity.
Identities are often not created deliberately and are “default programs” that run our lives when we do not. These identity selves are often reactive and some are downright nasty and some are sick, and some are victims, etc., etc.
Being able to identify and manage one’s beliefs and therefore their identity is the most powerful ability a person can have, and yet currently this is one of the least understood skills for humanity. As we move into the “Age Of Consciousness” this will quickly change and the right and wrong game humanity is currently compelled to play will unwind and an enlightened civilization will unfold on Earth.
Take a moment to Contemplate these ideas:

What beliefs do you have that are empowering?
What beliefs do you have that are limiting?
Do you suspect there are some self-sabotaging beliefs that you hold that you are not conscious of?
Would you like to have a highly effective strategy to manage your consciousness?! Sign up for my free online coaching at cbarthol@hotmail.com

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

How To Love Yourself

Louise Hay offers these helpful suggestions.Try them! They really work.

1. Stop all criticism: Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
2. Don't scare yourself: Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
3. Be gentle and kind and patient: Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
4. Be kind to your mind: Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change the thoughts.
5. Praise yourself: Criticism breaks the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
6. Support yourself: Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends, and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
7. Be loving to your negatives: Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So. lovingly release the old negative patterns.
8. Take care of your body: Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
9. Mirror work: Look into your own eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say: "I love you, I really love you!"
10. LOVE YOURSELF - DO IT NOW! Don't wait until you get well or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin NOW - do the best you can.

Corrine

Monday, July 13, 2009

Mothers and Daughters


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What's the deal with me and my Mom? Here's what my therapist opines: "Your guilty feelings stem from your ambiguous relationship with your mother?" Huh? Our relationship is hardly ambiguous - I love her and I hate her. Ok, ok, I guess that's what "ambiguous" means but the the way he said it made it feel like this is not normal! Well it's normal to me. It didn't used to bother me (I thought) until my own foray into motherhood - particularly when my daughter became a teenager - became a really dark place.

I think my approach to raising a teen might be labeled as anarchic. I pretty much let her do what she wants. She's always been a very independent child and I saw no reason to curb that side of her nature once she was old enough to begin the process of self-definition. It was not always this way.

When she turned 13, my daughter began to assert her new-found sense of independence in most dramatic ways: coming home late from school, staying out past curfew, in every way doing exactly the opposite of what I requested of her; in other words, rebelling. This caused me endless frustration and kept happening over and over. By the time she was 14 I was seriously ready to kill her or myself! Looking back, she did tell me to "lighten up" and "give her space" - very clearly expressing her needs. So what did I do? Exactly the opposite: calling her mobile every hour to check on her; giving her a curfew that was not appropriate to her age; checking out her friends like I was the FBI and well, just about everything else a scared, needy, over-bearing, insecure mother could do. Needless to say, this went down about as well as liquid cod liver oil.

Thankfully however, my inner guides stepped in, made me focus on me and showed me what and where I need to heal in order to stop creating so much turmoil in both of our lives.

So what does all this have to do with my own uncomfortable relationship with my mother? Guess what names I (inwardly, of course) call her? Scared, needy, over-bearing and insecure! Quell surprise, right? You gotta know that "if you spot it, you got it!" That's right. The reason I could spot it so easily in MY mom, was because she was playing the role of MY mirror. The universe - in it's infinite wisdom - was simply reflecting back to me, well, ME. This was what I was shown by my guides. Once I did the work of forgiveness necessary to heal the error in my thinking that led to these negative behaviors, my daughter's behavior totally changed. Actually I'm not sure how much her behavior actually changed as much as my perspective on her behavior. It was like little miracles were sent every day to help us forge a much clearer, smoother path.

So now when my Mom calls (and take note, she calls often!) and gets that unmistakeable note of censure in her tone when we begin to discuss my daughter, I now, instead of getting pissed off, thank my angels because I know that hidden in any negative emotional response is a holy message that says hey, you still have some inner work to do girlfriend!

Sunday, July 12, 2009

The Christ Within

My 16yr. old daughter has a habit of coming home way way late from her nights out. This used to freak me out to no end. I felt out of control, frightened, disrespected and would become nearly unhinged with worry. When it kept happening over and over, I realized there must be some healing message being shown me that I wasn't seeing. I asked for vision, I asked and I received.



Our lives are the reflections of our thoughts. When I looked in the mirror of my life, I saw so much old hurts and unforgiveness; all - or mostly all - directed towards me. I was not practicing what I was preaching which was unity and the oneness of humanity. Therefore, if I saw mistakes in my daughter humility demands that I first had to have seen them in me. In fact, that's the only place they resided. She became my teacher because most of my projections were directed to her.



All of the so-called negative experiences I partook of in my teen years were being karmically burned off and shown to me. After all, as you sow so you shall reap. Not punishment for sure, but universal law in action. I had never taken the time to forgive myself for my mistakes and yet I was quick to pounce on my girl for hers. Trying in some twisted retroactive way to "atone" for my own perceived sins.



Yet, isn't that what Jesus came to do for me? To atone for everything past, present and future where I may have missed the mark? Because that's what "sin" actually is - missing the mark. So who was I to be feeling this charge of guilt and bearing witness to it's presence by taking it out on her? Like a confused actor, I was playing the wrong role!



It took prayer, meditation and listening to my guides to get holy perspective on this situation. If I took the path of the "wronged" parent and yelled and screamed and punished, I would in essence be yelling, screaming and punishing myself. More guilt. But, knowing now that I asked for this child before my current incarnation on earth, I had to make the choice of using experiences with her to either heal or destroy. I chose to heal.



If Christ dwells within me, and if I proclaim to be one with Him, how then could I possibly NOT see the Christ in her? This is awakening to truth. And would I yell, scream and punish the Christ? The crucifiction has already taken place....I'll not journey to the cross again. What I will do, is trust that universe is all good, that there is no evil, that all is perfection and most importantly that these truths have indeed set me free.



Tata!

Saturday, July 11, 2009

Patterns in my life tied to beliefs

I notice I immediately get tense whenever certain of my children's friends come over. Actually I get this feeling when most anyone is in my 'space'. It's a feeling of being invaded, put upon, taken advantage of. This makes no sense in reality because they're actually pretty cool kids and thankfully, I'm aware and awake enough to realize it's not them, it's ME.

I feel like they're going to take something from me, whether it be peace or peace of mind, my personal resources like food, money, etc. They will make things scarce and hard for me and mine. I will then "not have enough" for my and my family's needs. I will be imposed upon to go back to the grocery, drug store, wherever, to get more. I will be inconvenienced.

My friends, this is egoic, self-preservational (is this a word?) fear-based nonsense. I know it, I teach it for goodness sakes!, and yet I still feel the power of the emotional response tied to this as yet unknown and unnamed belief (I'll explore this later). Maybe at one time in my life it did serve me but not anymore. First off, I'm quite well off and there's nothing these two kids could ask me for that I couldn't immediately replace. And addressing the second "feeling" of being inconvenienced and having to go shopping to replace whatever, it's not like time is scarce for me. I work at the office three days a week; the rest I'm home pissing about. Why then this gut reaction?

I am SO tempted to psycho-analyze here. Yes, I've been to therapy and once you do that you can quickly get in the (bad) habit of becoming your own psychiatrist. Just remember, you can't solve your problems using the same mind that created them! Ok? Let's start with some facts of my life's experience that even my therapist agrees are linked to how I feel today:

1) I was sexually abused from the age of 6 until the age of 8; and I'm talking the whole nine yards including the abuser at times bringing his friend over to take part; (my face is getting hot and my whole head feels stuffed - will now pause to do some EFT)

ok, I'm back

2) hm.

You know what? There is no "2." Everything other "fact" I could write about seems to be based on and stem from "1.). How then does this experience that happened at least 37 years ago still cause me to act with resentment against anyone who I feel is imposing on me? Next time I'll explore how awakening and awareness helped me reach this level of comfort in confronting my own inner "demons." Still have a way to go but actually I now enjoy the journey.

Tata!

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